I was reading my journal the other day and was shocked at how often I used blame as a way to explain the results I was getting. If their had been an Olymipic medal for blamatitis then I sure would be in the running.
Last year I said to myself "That enough" and went out to find a way to change...
thats another story.
Some of the massive break throughs Ive had come from understaning how blame can affect you.
Can YOU see yourself here to.......
How easy it is to just point a finger at someone else and then walk away.
The blame game is a lose-lose situation. You never really win and the only one who loses the most is the one who is putting the blame on everybody else but himself.
When you point the finger at someone, they may harbor anger towards you. In some instances, this anger builds up and becomes a desire for revenge. Have you noticed how blame deflates yourself-esteem. However, who is the real victim here.
You probably find it hard to truly move on because you cant get your eyes of the rear vision mirror (dwell in the past), focuing on being a victim instead of being a survivor. Eaten up by self-pity instead of having the drive to find solutions and move forward to better their lives.
When you blame others your actions you can suffers mentally, emotionally, socially and even physically. “I am a victim” mentality leads to an assumption that other people cause unhappiness and prevent you from building good relationships.
Do you find it very difficult to admit his mistake and find fault in somebody else instead. Forgiving a mistake, whether it is your mistake or not, is a sign of weakness. The negative emotions you feel are so great that stress starts to take over. Stress can causes you to suffer not just emotionally, but physically because stress leads to a list of illnesses such as skin disorders, cancer, heart diseases, digestive problems, and more.
What really helped me was once I started taking accountability.
You see responsibility can be shared, but you are the only person accountable to your happiness. Only you can make that happen. Your past experience may have been responsible on how you look at the world now. Everything that happens after that moment is your accountability.
Acknowledge that you make mistakes and that is perfectly normal. When you open your eyes to this simple fact, it makes forgiving others and yourself much easier. You become free just by realizing that you do have some shortcomings. When you ask for help, you’d be surprised that people would be more than happy to do so.
Although you cannot control how things will turn out, you have every power to control how you would react to unexpected circumstances. You do have control over your choice of words. You do have the choice to find the positive thing in the most seemingly impossible situation, or the choice to be sucked in by negative reactions.
Do not let your future be controlled by your past. If you are seeking a different future SOMETHING HAS TO CHANGE.
Sometimes change requires assistance.
I hope these insights can help you the way they have helped me
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